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Download 7 habits effective habits of Stephen R. Covey and more Exercises Engineering in PDF only on Docsity! Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 0 Community Briefing on: Covey’s Habits of Highly Effective People . Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 1 Index Page 2 Habits defined 3 Defining a habit 4 Paradigms and Principals 5 The Private Victory 6 Habit 1- Be proactive 7 Habit 2- Begin with the end in mind 8 Habit 3- Put first things first 9 Time quadrants 10 The Public Victory 11 Habit 5- Seek first to understand then to be understood 12 Habit 6- Synergy 13 Habit 7 - Sharpen the saw 14 Habit 8 – Finding your voice 14 Quotes that support the habits 17 The ABC of using the habits 17 Reading Recommendations Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 4 Paradigms and Principles Paradigm is another word for perception. Here are some examples of perceptions: There is no reason for any individual to have a computer in their home. “Kenneth Olsen, President and found of Digital Equipment Corp. 1977” Man will never reach the moon regardless of all scientific advances. Dr. Lee Forest, Inventor of the Audion Tube and Father of Radio (Feb 25 th 1967) Television won’t be able to hold on to any market it captures after the first six months. People will soon get tired of starting at a plywood box every night. Darryl F Zanuck. Head of 20 th Century Fox in 1946 Statements made by real teens. No one in my family has ever gone to Uni. I’d be crazy to think I could make it. My teacher is out to get me. Me? Thin? Are you kidding? My whole family is full of fat people. Our paradigms can often be way off the mark and as a result they create limitations. Paradigms are like wearing a pair of glasses that at times could have the wrong prescription. The lens affects how you see everything. We have paradigms about ourselves, about other people and about life in general. Ask yourself “What is the driving force of my life?” Is it friend centred, stuff (possession) centred, girl friend-boyfriend centred, school centred, sport or hobby centred. There is a fine line between having a passion for something and basing your entire existence on it. To obtain balance in life you need to live a principle-centred life. What are principles: Honesty, hard work (persistence) organisation, cooperation (Yes this is where You Can Do It fits into the picture) The National School Network Norms are principles that we ask our teaching staff to operate by. Adopt a sense of responsibility in and for the group Attend to others and listen Cooperate in good faith Confront problems and differences of opinion respectfully Accept where others are at Allow and give no put downs Suspend judgment We need to understand our principles and paradigms so that when we explore the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people we know the driving force behind our own Thinking. Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 5 The Private Victory "Each of us wants to feel adequate to his world…in control of his situation and, thus, of his destiny”. Before you’ll ever win in the public arenas of life, you must first win private battles within yourself. All change begins with you. How you feel about your self is like a Personal Bank Account. Improving Self-Esteem: What things do you consider to be deposits in your own personal bank account. What events are deposits and what are withdrawals. We all need to give to seek out opportunities that add to our own personal bank accounts. Some examples: PBA Deposits PBA Withdrawals Keep promises to yourself Break personal promises Do small acts of kindness Keep to yourself Be gentle with yourself Beat yourself up Be honest Be dishonest Renew yourself Wear yourself out Tap into your talents Neglect your talents The first three habits, 1. be proactive, 2. begin with and end in mind, and 3. put the first things first, are grouped together in a category called private victory. Private victories are personal and relate to you as an individual person. Habit 1: Be proactive This habit is the basis of all further habits and a cornerstone of success. Be proactive means a combination of take action and take responsibility. You are the person who is going to have the biggest influence in how your life turns out. You have the opportunity to use your free will and work hard to change yourself and your circumstances. You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be. The main thrust of this habit is to do whatever is in your power to make things (your situation) better. You are the creator, the actor and the doer in your life, get started and "just do it". Habit 2: Begin with an end in mind This habit could be restated, visualize where you want to go. Before you start doing something sit down and plan it out. A couple of minutes planning will usually save you many minutes of actual work later on. Use your creative forces to create images and plans in your head first, then carry out your plan. The plan is called the first creation, and when you carry out the plan it is the second creation. For your "second creation" to be successful, you should have a well thought-out "first creation". Habit 3: First things first This habit deals with setting priorities. Decide what values and goals are most important for you, then decide what steps are most important for you to take to achieve those goals. Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 6 Habit 1 – Be Proactive Self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine the way we see ourselves. It is our map of the basic nature of mankind. The Social Mirror There are three widely accepted theories of determinism:  Genetic determinism holds that you inherit your personal tendencies and character.  Psychic determinism holds that your upbringing and childhood experiences mould you.  Environmental determinism holds that environmental factors are responsible. Between Stimulus and Response Frankl, a psychologist in the Freudian tradition, recognized that "between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose."  Imagination -- the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality.  Conscience -- an inner awareness of right and wrong.  Independent will -- the ability to act based on self-awareness. Proactivity Defined Proactivity: As human beings we are responsible for our own lives.  Reactive people are driven by feelings, circumstances, conditions, the environment.  Proactive people are driven by carefully considered, selected and internalized values. Taking the Initiative Taking the initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing our responsibility to make things happen. Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence Where do you focus your time and energy?  Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence.  Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern. People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be. (Abraham Lincoln) Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 9 What It Takes to Say "No" The only place to get time for Quadrant II in the beginning is Quadrants III and IV. If you were to fault yourself in one of three areas, which would it be?  The inability to prioritize  The inability or desire to organize around those priorities.  The lack of discipline to execute around them. The Quadrant II Tool A Quadrant II organizer will meet six criteria:  Coherence. Harmony, unity, and integrity between vision and mission, priorities and plans, and desires and discipline.  Balance. Success in the various roles of our life.  Quadrant II Focus. Organize your life on a weekly basis. Schedule your priorities don't prioritize what's on your schedule.  A "People" Dimension. Focus on people not just the schedule.  Flexibility. The planning tool should be tailored to you.  Portability. You should be able to carry your tool with you. Becoming a Quadrant II Manager 1. Identify roles 2. Select goals 3. Schedule 4. Adapt The Time Quadrant for Teenagers Urgent Not Urgent Im p o rt a n t 1 The Procrastinator  Exam tomorrow  Friend gets injured  Late for work  Project due today  Car breaks down 2 The Proritiser  Planning, goal setting  Essay due in a week  Exercise  Relationships  Relaxation N o t Im p o rt a n t 2 The Yes-Man  Unimportant phone calls  Interruptions  Other people’s small problems  Peer pressure 4 The Slacker  Too much TV  Endless phone calls  Excessive Computer games  Mall marathons  Time waster Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 10 The Public Victory The second set of three habits, 4. think win-win, 5. seek first to understand, then be understood, and 6. synergize, are the basis for public victory. Public victory is success with others in teams and in relationships in general. They are shared victories where you help and are helped by other people. Public victories are built on the private victories of the first three habits. To be publicly successful in a deep or real way, you should first build the first three habits into your character. To try to do things another way is building on a false foundation and will bring about only short-term results. Habit 4: Think win-win Many of us grow up with a competitive mindset, "I win, and you lose". Or, a beaten-down mindset, "I give up, do whatever you want to me". Or, a mix of these and other mindsets. Each of these has its place. However, for most of the most valuable interactions we have in family and business, the most mature and effective point of view is seeking situations that benefit everyone involved. When we negotiate, we should seek to make deals that help everyone. In cases where this is not possible, it is best to have the mindset from the outset that you will walk away from the deal. Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then be understood To influence and help others, you must first actively listen to them and understand their situation and concerns. Think of the example of a doctor who gives a prescription over the telephone without getting all of the necessary information about the patient or his condition. This could lead to a serious or fatal error if the patient takes the wrong medicine. In the same way, you should be very careful when you start to give anyone advice that you understand the preoccupations and situation of that person. Even if your advice is very good, it will likely not apply to the situation. Part of this is not just to listen passively but to listen actively and empathetically. Put yourself in the shoes of the other person. See the world from his perspective as best you can. Listen without judging. Three main errors to avoid: 1. "Hearing" everything through a filter formed by your own world-view, imposing your pre-conceived ideas on everything that you hear. 2. 3. All our life we have been frustrated when someone just won't understand. Someone who just argues for his position. Understanding is the doorway to collaboration, friendship, and more. When seeking first to understand, honestly empathize with the person. Listen actively and then state their case back to them so they say "yes that's exactly how I see it". When that condition occurs, you may seek to be understood. The resulting exchange of ideas and feelings is bound to be synergistic, win-win. Habit 6: Synergize This habit deals with teamwork and opening yourself up emotionally to work with other people. It says that optimistic, emotionally-charged individuals who are living out the previous habits are able to work in amazing ways and come up with new alternatives together that no one of them would have come up with alone. The idea is that one plus one is three, or more, and the synergy happens when these "third alternatives" appear. It is a bit chaotic but fun and stimulating. Retrieved from "http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Seven_Habits_Study_Guide/Public_victory" Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 11 Habit 5 – Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood. Principles of Empathic Communication Character and Communication  Communication is the most important skill in life  If you want to interact effectively with me, to influence me, you first need to understand me.  You have to build the skills of empathic listening on a base of character that inspires openness and trust. Empathic Listening  Most people listen with the intent to reply.  When another person speaks, we are usually 'listening' at one of four levels: o ignoring o pretending o selective listening o attentive listening Diagnose Before You Prescribe  Diagnose before you prescribe is a correct principle in many areas of life.  It is the mark of all true professionals  The amateur salesman sells products, the professional salesman sells solutions to needs and problems. Empathic listening involves four developmental stages o mimic content o rephrase the content o reflect feeling o rephrase the content and reflect the feeling  Empathic listening enables us to turn transactional opportunities into transformational opportunities.  The key to empathic listening is to genuinely seek the welfare of the individual to whom you are listening. Understanding and Perception  As you learn to listen deeply to other people, you will discover tremendous differences in perception.  Habit 5 is the first step in the process of Win/Win. Then Seek to Be Understood  Knowing how to be understood is the other half of Habit 5 and is crucial in reaching Win/Win solutions.  When you can present your own ideas clearly, specifically, visually and in the context of the paradigms of your audience, you significantly increase the credibility of your ideas. One on One  Habit 5 is right in the middle of your circle of influence. You can always seek first to understand.  Spend time with your spouse and children, one on one. Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 14 Habit 8– Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs Covey sees leadership as a choice to deal with people in a way that will communicate to them their worth and potential so clearly they will come to see it in themselves. It is about developing one's own voice, one's "unique personal significance. After finding your own voice, you can inspire others and create a situation where people feel engaged. This includes establishing trust, searching for third alternatives (not a compromise between your way and my way, but a third, better way) and developing a shared vision. At our school, -teachers who master this habit and ensuring students pursue their interests and passions. This is the difference between a teacher and a great teacher. Quotes that support each habit. Habit 1 Be Proactive ( I am the force) Nothing can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them Mahatma Gandhi If we live out of our memory, we’re tied to the past and to that which is finite. When we live out of our imagination, we’re tied to that with is infinite. Stephen R. Covey Habit 2 Begin with the End in Mind (Control your own destiny or someone else will) Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mid as a steady purpose – a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye. Visualizing something organises one’s ability to accomplish it. Stephen R. Covey One man cannot do right in one department of life whilst he is occupied doing wrong in any other department. Life is one indivisible whole. Mahatma Gandhi The four Prescriptions 1. Listen carefully 2. Trying reaching back. 3. Re-examine your motives 4. Write you trouble in the sand Arthur Gordon What lies behind us is nothing compared to what lies within us and ahead of us. Anonymous Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 15 Habit 3: Put first things first (Will and Won’t Power) Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities. Ones philosophy is not best expressed in words; it’s expressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we mare are ultimately our responsibility. Eleanor Roosevelt What is important to another person must be as important to you as the other person is to you. Stephen R. Covey You don’t invent your mission, you detect it. Victor Frankl In all fields o human endeavour, 80 percent of the results flow from 20 percent of the activities. Pareto To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet. To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the train. To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident. To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics. Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time. And remember, time waits for no one. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present. Habit 4 Think Win- Win (Life is an all you can eat buffet) Win-win is a belief in the Third Alternative. It’s not your way or my way: it’s a better way Stephen R. Covey Your security comes from within instead of from without Stephen R. Covey Comparison leads to win-lose scripting Stephen R. Covey Habit 5 Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood (You have two ears and one mouth…!) We need to listen to one another if we are to make it through this age of apocalypse and avoid the chaos of the crowd Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People® ( Remember Covey’s habits are protected intellectual property) 16 Everyone’s life is so singular, so unique. Who will listen to understand that uniqueness? Stephen R. Covey The psychological equivalent of air is to feel understood Stephen R. Covey The key to listening is with the eyes and the heart. Stephen R. Covey "When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that, you are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem. Listen! All that I asked was that you listen, not talk or do -- just hear me. Habit 6 Synergy (The “High” Way) Differences create the challenges in life that open the door to discovery. Sean Covey The essence of synergy is to value difference- to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weakness. Stephen R. Covey The enemy of the best is the good Anonymous People who are truly effective have the humility and reverence to recognize their own perceptual limitations and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human beings. Stephen R. Covey Strength lies in difference, not in similarities. Stephen R. Covey The key to objectivity is to accept subjectivity Stephen R. Covey I don not see the world as it is, I see the world as I am. Stephen R. Covey Habit 7 Sharpen the saw (It’s me time) A long, healthy and happy life is the result of making contributions, of having meaningful projects that are personally exciting and contribute to and bless the lives of others. Hans Selye It is more noble to give yourself to one individual than to labour diligently for the salvation of the masses. Dag Hammarskjold