Marriage Ceremony: Vows, Blessings, and Promises, Study Guides, Projects, Research of Music

Download Marriage Ceremony: Vows, Blessings, and Promises and more Study Guides, Projects, Research Music in PDF only on Docsity! Basic Wedding Ceremony Outline (for Rick Langer) Greeting and Prayer We have come together in the presence of God to witness the joining together of this man and this woman in the bond of marriage. The sacred relationship of marriage was established by God in creation, and it is commanded in the Scripture to be held in honor by all people. It is at once one of man’s greatest blessings and also one of his most awesome responsibilities. Marriage is not to be entered into lightly, but soberly and deliberately and in reverent fear of God. [Groom] and [Bride] thank you for joining them and sharing in this very special day. Let commit this time to the Lord in prayer. Giving away Who is giving this woman to be married to this man? Parent's Blessing (optional) A marriage is not only the joining together of two individuals, it is also a joining together of two families. The care, support, and nurture which have been extended to [Groom] and [Bride] by their families is as important now as it has ever been. In fact, it needs to be extended now to include another person. Both families need to be committed to support both partners in this marriage. __________ , you are not losing a son but rather you are gaining a daughter. Do you promise to love and encourage [Bride] as you would your own? If so, answer,"We will." __________ , you are not losing a daughter but rather you are gaining a son. Do you promise to love and encourage [Groom] as you would your own? If so, answer,"We will." Scripture Reading, Song, Poem, or Prayer (optional--any of these or none of these are fine) Message Statement of Intention This statement of intent is optional as the vows are an explicit statement of the intent and commitment to marry. However, they are commonly used before the vows as a public declaration. They can be used immediately before the vows or else earlier in the service, often immediately after the giving away of the bride. PLEASE JOIN HANDS 2 ---------------, Do you intend to take this woman whose hand you hold to be your lawful wedded wife; and do you pledge before God and man to love, honor, and protect her through sunshine and shadow alike; keeping yourself unto her alone until death shall separate you? If so, answer “I Do”? ------------- Do you intend to take this man, whose hand you hold, to be your lawful wedded husband; and do you pledge before God and man to be to him a loving and true wife, through sunshine and shadow alike, keeping yourself unto him alone, until death shall separate you? If so, answer “I Do” Vows [Groom] , repeat after me: I [Groom] take you [Bride], to be my wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, excluding all others, as long as we both shall live. With God as my witness, I give you my pledge. [Bride], repeat after me: I [Bride] take you [Groom] , to be my husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, excluding all others, as long as we both shall live. With God as my witness, I give you my pledge. Rings You have chosen to seal you vows by the giving and receiving of rings. The ring forms a perfect circle, without a beginning or an end, and is thereby a symbol of eternity and signifies the duration of the commitment you are making. The gold of which the rings are made signify the purity and value of the relationship into which you enter. Let us now exchange these rings. [Groom] /[Bride] You have the privilege of placing this ring on [Bride]/[Groom] finger in virtue of the exclusive covenant relationship into which you now enter. Repeat after me: I give you this ring, as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am, and with all that I have, I will honor you. 3 things; to pray for and encourage each other in the things which pertain to God; and to live together as the heirs of the grace of life. Vows of Intent These vows may also precede the Vows after the Charge, as two parts of the same Vows. Used at this point in the service, the implication is that the Bride’s Father is hearing these as a condition of giving his daughter. G****, will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her and forsaking all others, keep only unto her as long as you both shall live? (Groom answers, “I will.”) B****, will you have this man to be your wedded husband, to live together in holy marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him and forsak- ing all others, keep only unto him as long as you both shall live? (Bride answers, “I will.”) Giving of the Bride Who gives this woman to be married to this man? Father: “Her mother and I.” (The father, guardian, brother or friend of the woman shall put the woman’s right hand in the right hand of the man. She may give him a kiss. At this point the wedding party may move forward to the plat-form.) Song or Special Music Optional Scripture passages to consider Genesis 2:18-24 - Eve brought to Adam Ruth 1:16-17 - Ruth’s loyalty to Naomi Psalm 121 - “I lift up my eyes to the hills…” Psalm 127 - “Unless the Lord builds the house…” Psalm 128 - The blessing of a large family Ecclesiastes 4:8-12 - “Two are better than one…” Song 2:10-13 - The season of love Song 8:6-7 - “Many waters cannot quench love…” Isaiah 61:1-4 - “…to bestow on them a crown of beauty…” Malachi 2:15-16 - Warning not to break faith in marriage Matthew 19:4-6 - Jesus’ restatement of Genesis 2:24 John 2:1-11 - The wedding and miracle at Cana Romans 12:9-13 - Guidelines for loving one another 1 Corinthians 13 - The love chapter Ephesians 5:18-33 - Paul’s teaching on marriage Philippians 2:1-11 - Assuming the humble attitude of Christ Colossians 3:12-14 - Qualities of Christian relationships 2 Peter 1:5-8 - “…add to your faith goodness, etc.” 1 John 4:7-12 - “Let us love one another…” 6 Message Vows The pastor may say, “Will you now make your vows to one another?” The man and the woman are to face each other, holding hands. The Bride gives her flowers to the Maid of Honor. The Groom repeats the vow after the pastor as follows: I, G****, take you B****, to be my wedded wife, / to have and to hold from this day forward, / for better for worse, / for richer, for poorer, / in sickness and in health, / to love and to cherish, till death us do part, / according to God’s holy plan / and with God’s gracious help. [Alternative ending: …according to God’s holy ordinance; / and thereto I pledge to you my troth.—or--and thereto I pledge myself to you.] The Bride repeats the vow after the pastor as follows: I, B****, take you, G****, to be my wedded husband, / to have and to hold from this day forward, / for better for worse, / for richer, for poorer, / in sickness and in health, / to love and to cherish, till death us do part, / according to God’s holy plan / and with God’s gracious help. Giving of Rings You have determined to seal your vows by the giving and receiving of rings. Rings are a sacred symbol, signaling to others that you are in an exclusive commitment to your beloved. The precious metal from which they are forged reminds you of the precious possession you have in marriage. And the infinite circle they form remind you that your new relationship is never to end. G****, indicating your responsibility to B**** to receive her into your care and keeping, I give you this ring to place on her finger, as both a symbol and promise that you receive her. Just as this ring circles her finger, so you are to encompass her with strength and protecting love. Groom (repeating after the pastor): B****, this ring I give you / as a constant reminder / of my abiding love and commitment. B****, indicating your responsibility to G****, to receive him into your care and devotion, I give you this ring to place on his finger as both a symbol and promise that you receive him. Just as this ring circles his finger, so you are to encompass him with strength and protecting love. Bride (repeating after the pastor): G****, this ring I give you / as a constant reminder / of my abiding love and commitment. 7 [Alternative: This ring I give you / in token and pledge / of our constant faith and abiding love.] Optional: Unity Candle Special music is often done during the Unity Candle ceremony. Another alter- native is the reading of Gen. 2:20b-24. Some couples extinguish their individual candles after lighting the central candle while others leave them burning. At this point, some choose to present roses to mothers. Prayer of Dedication Couples may kneel if a kneeling bench is provided. The Lord’s Prayer may be spoken or sung at the conclusion of this prayer. Our eternal Father, send your blessing upon G**** and B****, whom we bless in your name, that they may live faithfully together. May they keep the vows they have made, and may they remain ever in perfect love and peace to-gether, and live according to your Word, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. Pronouncement For inasmuch as G**** and B**** have consented together in holy wedlock, and have witnessed the same before God and this company, and thereto have pledged their faith each to the other, and have declared the same by joining hands and by giving and receiving rings, I pronounce that they are husband and wife together, in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Those whom God has joined together, let not man put asunder. Kiss You may kiss your bride. Benediction “The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you and be gracious unto you. The LORD turn his face toward you and give you peace” (Numbers 6:24-26). Presentation of Couple (The bride retrieves her flowers from the Maid of Honor and the couple turns to face the congregation.) It gives me great delight to introduce to you Mr. and Mrs_____________. 8 • Do you understand that in marrying _______ you agree to love her/his children even as you love her/him? I do. • Do you promise to love and care for her/his children as you would your own? I do. • Will you work with _______ to create a home where these children will learn about the love of God in Christ, both through your teaching and your example? I will. • Will you make it your practice to pray for and with these children? I will. Blessing of the Couple by Older Children The following provides an opportunity for the couple to pledge their care for a new blended family, and for the children to bless the couple. The children gather with the couple and the pastor begins… Today we celebrate not only a new relationship between G**** and B****, but also the beginning of new relationships between their children— _______________—who now have a share in this marriage and will inevitably be touched by the covenant their parents enter into today. It will both complicate and enrich their lives. They, too, will have much to contribute and will need to help create a home and a way of life in which all of you will grow into the best people you can be. G**** and B****, as you give yourselves to one another in love and loyalty, do you promise always to keep room in your life together for ___children’s names___? Will you commit yourselves to respect and honor them as individuals? Do you pledge now to cherish, encourage and tenderly care for them as long as they need you? Yes, we do. The children will now give their blessing to this marriage: We (I) wish to offer to both of you our blessing and congratulations. We love you deeply and we are delighted that you have found each other. We want you to know that just as you have always loved and supported us, we promise our love and our support for your new relationship. It is our wish for you that you live fully and deeply and that your lives together will be richer and more fulfilling than either could be alone. Pronouncement And now, having heard you make these pledges of your affection and take these vows of fidelity, I do, by virtue of the authority vested in me, as a minister of the gospel and in accordance with the laws of God and the State of ______, pronounce you husband and wife, no longer two, but now one, in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Or… Inasmuch as G**** and B**** have consented together to marriage, and have made their vows before God and these witness, and have symbolized their vows by giving and receiving rings, I pronounce that they are husband and wife. Those whom God has joined, let no one separate. 11 12 Presentation Dear friends and family, it is my honor and joy to present to you for the first time as husband and wife G**** and B**** __(last name)__ (John and Jane Doe—rather than Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.)