Download Intimate Relationships - Social Psychology - Lecture Notes and more Study notes Social Psychology in PDF only on Docsity! Intimate Relationships • Romantic Relationships • Zick Rubin (1970, 1973, 1974). • Are liking and loving the same? • Ss reported loving their romantic partners considerably more than their friends • Self-Expansion: Aron & Aron (1986) Relationship Issues • A relationship is likely to be long-lasting when the couple: – Has incorporated each other into one’s self. – Has become interdependent and have invested much into the relationship. • But these factors also intensify stress and make coping more difficult after the relationship ends. Triangular Theory of Love • Sternberg (1986): Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment • Seven Combinations • Intimacy I+P+C • Passion • Commitment • Intimacy/Passion • Intimacy/Commitment • Passion/Commitment “Colors of Love” • Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) • Examine primary and secondary “styles” of love • Sternberg’s Terms • Eros: ? • Ludus: ? • Storge: ? • Gender Differences in Love Styles: – Men = playful: Women = friendship • Sternberg’s Pluses • Describes the variety of types of love we see • Identifies 3 critical “love” variables • Sternberg’s Minuses • does not relate love to other emotions • fails to describe a process of love • does not explain the origins and consequences of love types • Lying in Relationships Docsity.com Theories of Love • Passionate Theory of Love (Berscheid & Walster, 1974) • Integrated Schachter & Singer (1962) – physiological arousal – label arousal as a result of emotion • 3 Conditions of Passionate Love • Learn what love is • Meet someone who fits your idea of a mate • Experience physiological arousal Attachment Theory • Typology of attachment styles: •Securely Attached •Avoidant Attached •Anxious/Ambivalent Attached Secure Style • high in friendship, trust, happiness • capacity for closeness with autonomy • believes in head-over-heels romantic love • believes that love can last • less likely to be divorced • accepts and supports the partner despite their partner’s faults • comfortably gives and receives care • strives for mutual intimacy and pleasure Avoidant • avoidance of close relationships due to fear of rejection • sense of personal insecurity • distrust of others • describe relationships in terms of fear of closeness, lack of acceptance Anxious/Ambivalent • overinvolved in close relationships • fall in love easily • have intense feelings in relationship, esp. jealousy • gives care in self-sacrificing, compulsive way • dissatisfied with involvement of partner • tries to satisfy need for security and love through sexual contact Major Findings • Securely attached foster intimacy • Avoidant attached starves intimacy • Anxious attached smothers intimacy Docsity.com
